A Matter of Identity

Posted by William Journal January 3, 2019

When I told the few family members I have left that I was changing my name, most of them said I was always going to be David to them. That’s fine. I get that. The thing that I have been a little disappointed in are a few friends who still call me by my birth name.

Don’t @ me, I know it’s not the same, but I’ve been trying to educate myself about what it’s like for transgender people to make that change in their lives and the issues they face. Now, of course, me changing my name is a hell of a lot different than changing my body, the way I dress, etc. I get that. Still, it’s about becoming a person that you feel you actually are.

“David/Dave” is something that people in my daily life have always just called me, but I never felt like it’s who I was. It wasn’t until the internet came along that I was afforded the opportunity to try out different names and see if one of them fit. And believe me, I tried out a lot of them over the years, as longtime friends can tell you.

The thing that inspired me to write this post was a few days ago, I received an e-mail from a very good friend who voiced their support over my decision to change my name and my reasoning behind it. They were replying to an e-mail that I’d sent, which I signed as William. Still, they used my birth name twice in the e-mail. I didn’t call it out, I let it go, but to me, it still felt disrespectful, especially after they voiced their support for the name change before.

Maybe I’m being too sensitive here. I guess I think you should honor someone’s wishes about how they identify themselves. I get that it takes people some time to adjust, but the person above had no excuse in my opinion.

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Three Predictions for 2019

Posted by William Editorial January 2, 2019

Number 1. I think Donald Trump will resign. I think it will get to the point where the inevitability of impeachment becomes so clear that, in order to save face, he’ll quit rather than face the possibility of removed. He’ll then get on his plane with any of his kids who haven’t been indicted, and make his way to some country that doesn’t have an extradition treaty with the United States.

He’ll then spend the rest of his life pouting about how he would have made America great again, and rage tweeting over how he was treated unfairly, fake news, evil Democrats, blah blah blah.

Number 2. I think deregulation is going to start making people sick in increasing numbers. I mean, how many food recalls did we see in the last couple of months alone? Between rules about air and water quality, and food safety going out the window, I fear 2019 is going to be a dark time.

As a result, I see people resorting to growing their own food with private gardens where possible, and community gardens also becoming more of a thing. I also see a resurgence of food co-ops in places that haven’t seen them in a while.

Number 3. This is actually the most likely on my list; I see this being the year that green energy starts to really gain traction. Wind, solar, electric cars, and more thought being given to green infrastructure, like charging stations for electric cars becoming more commonplace, etc.

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Happy New Year, 2019

Posted by William Journal January 1, 2019


I guess I’m supposed to say something profound about 2018 now. Truth is, it mostly a complete suck. The best thing I can say about the last year is that it’s the year I met my boyfriend. He’s cute, smart, funny, I love him, and he makes me happy. Yes, I am grateful for other things (this isn’t Thanksgiving, folks) but meeting him was definitely the highlight.

As for the rest of it, and looking forward, I really hope we learn to be nicer to each other in the coming year. I know this is really Pollyanna of me, but we need to realize we’re all in this together and get our collective shit together. I know that’s not going to happen tomorrow, over the next year, or even (probably) over the next century, but I can still hope.

So, I need to go to bed. Good night.

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